Coming from a bicultural family, things gets muddied..... a lot. I have a (now retired) Army dad with a Korean mom, who got a degree in psychology. My parents are very traditional, strict, and like to know that they are in control of things. They don't know the last part but I can tell. I'm in my third year of college and they still think that they can control parts of my life even though I live three hours away from them. They have become more dependent of me since my dad has gotten more surgeries. I understand this part but the things they do are a bit unbearable for me as a student.
My mom ask me to make lyric videos for me even though I have two younger brothers who live at home and are completely capable of doing it. They criticize if I socialize just the slightest. I know that they just want the best for me, however, if you're doting on every single picture that gets uploaded on Facebook for events that you are called to do. Then why hinder that?
I think that parents should try to wean off their child during high school. It's a good way because one, they have to start preparing for college, and two, it would give them the perfect opportunity to grow and become them. If you are trying to tell your child how to live their life while their in college, Then they have not way to become them. When I am in college, I feel like I'm growing and maturing, however, when I have to come back home, I feel like I have to stop my growing process and have to live like I did during high school just to please my parents.
I do want to discuss this problem with them soon. So good luck to me on that. I can't stand it anymore. I worked my butt of last semester, didn't get the best grade, but I know that I tried my best. However, now I come home and have to be the housewife. I hope that this can change in the future so that I can actually enjoy college and do what I should be doing, living.
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